To all wives and young wives: is it okay with you that your husband had a textmate?

when i open my friendster account this girl viewed me. then, one of my officemate told me that this girl was her friend who happens to be a textmate of my husband. she told me that her friend is keep on asking her what am i look like in personal, if i am snobbish type, if my husband is fetching me after office hour. i ask my husband about this,i told to him that why he has this textmate, i mean what is the importance of having a textmate. and i told to him that i dont like the way his textmate monitoring about me. okay, am i just a jealous? type or its just normal to have a textmate.?